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Dating Advice That Women Typically Give to Men - And Why You Should Never Listen to It
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By Ivan Stivenson
Published on January 16, 2009
 
You want to attract women, so you should listen to women about how to do this It sounds logical enough, but if you're really interested in getting the woman you want, you should never listen to what women say about dating

You want to attract women, so you should listen to women about how to do this. It sounds logical enough, but if you're really interested in getting the woman you want, you should never listen to what women say about dating. Women only think they know what they want. The really intelligent ones know that they want things other than what they tell you they want, but most of them don't even realize that their dream man is very different from the perfect boyfriend that every woman says she wants.

Women often tell men to treat the woman they're interested in with respect and bring her gifts like flowers or fine chocolates. It's classy, it's romantic, and it doesn't work in any dating arena. If you're looking for women in nightclubs or other social venues, know that these ladies are going to be on-guard for predators. As a matter of course, they'll put any man who approaches them through a battery of tests. The unsuccessful suitor either fails her tests or passes them at his own expense. The successful suitor, on the other hand, lets his lady know that he's got enough quality to not need to pass her tests -- he's exempt. This is the answer that women of quality secretly want to hear. As for flowers and chocolates, don't even consider them until the fourth or fifth date, and even then, find out what her preferences and allergies are before you make that kind of investment.

Another oft-spoken word of advice that women give to men is "Be yourself." If you've been yourself around women and it hasn't gotten you anywhere, then it's obvious that this advice doesn't work. Therefore, do not be yourself. Be better, bolder, and more ambitious than yourself. Become the man you truly want to be. No one, male or female, wants to be cowardly and shy. Change yourself. Do not let your own laziness doom you to a life of loneliness.

Why is it that women give such bad relationship advice to men? A lot of it stems from the fact that women's brains work differently than men's brains. It's a proven scientific fact, but even the most well-intentioned lady doesn't always appreciate that a man follows a different set of guidelines and conventions than a woman does. Her ideas are flawed because they proceed from the false assumption that she understands what's going on in a man's head. She doesn't. She can't. She's never been a man and therefore has never thought like one.

Another reason that women give such bad relationship advice lies in the fact that most women don't realize what they're truly attracted to. The women who do know what they truly want in a man will never say what they truly want in a man. That's because women are truly attracted to a man who is powerful and mysterious, who does the unexpected and maintains a cool composure, who knows who he is and what he wants. What women truly want is the challenge of taking this sort of bad boy and taming him into a gentleman. Like the heroines of Greek mythology, they are looking for a man who has the courage to hold his own against her, and she wants to be pleasantly surprised when she finally loses to him.

Women don’t say these things to a man because it’s the ultimate secret and the ultimate show of weakness. Most of them won’t even talk about it among themselves. How, then, can you expect women to share any real insight into the inner workings of their minds with men?